About Touching

Touching cues are highly programmed into our old mammalian brain core and limbic system coming from our animal ancestors even farther back than vertebrates. Touch encodes a primordial sense of either safe closeness or danger. The way a touch is given registers easily and instantly because the touch sensors deliver the message directly to many parts of the brain. Tactile messages are one of the brain's most real and reliable forms of communication. Also, touch is one of the most important and enjoyable activities in flirting and dating. Partners learn a great deal from the first physical contact. It actually probes beneath casual words to true feelings. Touching another's body is the evolutionary true test of where a partner stands. Since there are so many nerve sensors connected directly to the brain, touching is one of the most pleasurable experiences between two people.

Her first touch followed immediately by your proper reply opens the door for both of you to come emotionally and physically closer for a lot more fun! This moment is a giant leap forward in the relationship. The natural course of action from now on is to increase the frequency and quality of the touch. Touching is an art form that adds a most wonderful extra dimension to a loving relationship.

Women naturally have a quality touch for they are programmed to nurture their offspring with tenderness and love. Men are more wired to throw spears, bust rocks and club animals or each other. A man's touch may be a bit crude and rough compared to a woman's touch. Since the body's touch sensors are wired to so many parts of the brain, especially to the old limbic system, a man's basic instincts are aroused with even a casual touch. Her touch (actually any woman's touch) probably is going to cause a moment of confusion in your male brain. Your old brain limbic system is going to interpret her touch message the way you WANT to hear it: "Wow! Here is a woman to help me spread my DNA genes around! Let's get started right now!" At the same time your newer brain cognitive areas are hopefully understanding and controlling the older basic instincts.

Therefore, your response to her touch will say much about how socialized you are. A man may even ignore the touch because he is confused by the conflicting messages in both his old and new brain areas and not know what to do. So keep in mind that her first touch is only a signal that she is opening up A LITTLE and wants you to be a little more open too. This is where most men go wrong. They try to get more physical and 'grabby' right away. Don't be stupid and act like a Neanderthal man after her first touch. And the same thing goes for that first kiss if you ever get that far. Stay cool! Let her lead. Pay attention to her body language signals that tell you when you can come closer and how far. Only go a little way at a time and keep watching her body language to see if she is OK with your advances.