Make Your Entrance and Claim Your Space
You enter walking slow and tall, with good posture and no extra movements. The more extra movements you make when entering, the more your body language signals you are unsure of yourself and not in control. So walk in slowly, confidently, and with no extraneous arm and head movements. Don't strut or bounce your body like you are doing a dance!
Find somewhere to sit or stand. If standing, don't cross your arms across your chest. Instead, hook your thumbs in your front pockets with your shoulders back, head held erect and feet a little less than shoulder width apart. If seated, place some personal objects near you to claim and mark your territory: keys, drink, food, coins, cigarettes, lighter, or whatever you have. These personal possessions say, "I am here and this is my territory." The main thing you have to do first is to find your space, look cool and send the message, "I am here. I am a man. This is my space. I am comfortable here." Background Learn More . . .
Let Your Body Language Make a Statement
You can display a lot of your Alpha Maleness by body language. Stand or sit erect with chest out, head up, gut sucked in and arms relaxed and not flailing about. Take up extra space with your body language and territory. Don't look scared or like you are trying to be small and hide. Show with a relaxed face and body that you are comfortable and confident. Move only when necessary and move slowly and deliberately.
Check-out the Women's Body Language
From your territory, check-out all the women. Do it casually by looking around slowly. Don't be picky as you hunt for a woman. That only narrows down your choices for meeting someone surprisingly special. (Being picky gives you an excuse to not approach her because you fear being rejected.)
Slowly, confidently and casually scan across all the women's faces and watch for a return eye contact a little longer than usual. DO NOT break eye contact before she does. Make sure she is the one to break eye contact before you. And don't worry about the women seeing you look at them. The women are there to be seen and they enjoy you looking at them, even if they are unavailable. Collectively, women spend $26 billion USD on makeup every year to make sure men do look at them! Don't waste their money. Look with pleasure! They love it!
Look for This Specific Body Language
In most cases the women may only very briefly make eye contact, then disconnect by looking off to the RIGHT or LEFT. They may even shift in their chair so their body is facing more away from you. That indicates "no interest" right now. Don't take their disinterest personally. They may not need a man, so forget them. Keep searching for a woman who looks back at you slightly longer than usual, then disconnects by looking DOWN. A lingering look sends a powerful message of more than casual interest. Looking down is a natural flirting body language sign of submissiveness. She will also probably do one or all of these preening moves while looking down:
- Fluff her hair, to call attention to her femaleness.
- Touch her lips or face, to make sure you see how pretty she is.
- Straighten her clothing, to make sure you see that she has a great body.
- Straighten up in her chair and point her breasts directly at you, to show that she is a healthy woman ready to feed all your babies! (Very deep unconscious DNA programmed message!)
And those women who just give you a blank stare most likely are not wearing their glasses and don't even see you, so forget them. Most guys who feel the pain of countless rejections are usually going after women who have clearly signaled that they are not interested by their quick eye disconnect left or right. Don't be stupid and go charging after the good-looking woman who doesn't look you in the eye! You will only be setting yourself up for rejection and a big disappointment. Man, that stings!
When You See Her Body Language Cue, Take Action!
When you get a lingering eye contact, give a little smile and a very slight head nod and maintain the eye contact. Your strong and pleasant eye contact held on her shows her three things instantly:- You are definitely interested in her. She will like that!
- You are confident in yourself and you are not afraid of her. This will show your alpha-maleness! She will like that too!
- Your gentle smile shows that you are not threatening and you won't hurt her. She will be grateful for that!
OK, it is time for you to take action if you have found a woman who ...
- has responded to your eye contact with a lingering return eye contact,
- did the ancient looking-down signal,
- made some preening moves.
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