What To Do Now That He is Here
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relationship is starting! Your feminine flirting is getting results. You know it took courage for him to approach you because at any moment you could reject and embarrass him. You like his courage and confidence to take a risk and come talk to you. You especially like that he selected you to approach over all the other women there!
Take a Closer Look at Him
Now that he is closer, you can read his body language much better and even watch his eyes and facial expressions change. These subtle body language cues will give you a lot more information about him. How honest and open you are with each other will determine how fast you close the emotional and physical space between you both. But before you open up to him too much, you will want to evaluate him more.
Research Learn More . . .
Let's assume that the friendly talk continues in a socialized way between you two. The discussion now needs to be on data gathering to determine compatibility of interests. The question needing answered is this: Is there enough common ground in interests for a high quality relationship?
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Check If He is "In Tune" With You
When two people are disinterested or not well attuned to each other, their bodies sit or stand at angles to each other. At the right, notice that the man is facing her directly, slightly leaning toward her and has uncrossed legs. On the other hand, she is turned slightly away, legs are crossed and she is sitting back as far as the chair allows.
When two people are feeling comfortable with each other, interested and well attuned, they will unconsciously re-organize how they are sitting to more directly face and mirror each other. Notice how these two at the right are mirroring each other. If truly attentive to each other, when one changes position the other will do like wise and unconsciously match the other's body position. This action is called "mirroring".
In this scene with the guy who approached you, check to see if the two of you are doing mirroring. Change your body position and see if he follows. Take a drink or touch your food to see if he follows your moves approximately. If he does not relatively closely match your body position and movements, then he is not comfortable with you, yet. Give him some more time to get comfortable and feel safe with you. Once you see him begin to mirror your position and movements, then you are ready to move on to Step 4.
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-- Body Language Secrets: A Guide for Flirting and Courtship.
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-- The Power of Body Language: by Tonya Reiman.
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-- The Facts About Flirting by Judy Katschke.
-- Use the New Body Language to Get What You Want! by Janine Driver.
-- Superflirt by Tracey Cox .
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-- The Body Language Handbook: by Gregory Hartley.
-- Body Language + Face Reading + Auras by Rose Rosetree.
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-- Flirting 101: How to Charm Your Way to Love, Friendship, and Success.
-- What Southern Women Know About Flirting: The Fine Art of Courtship and Seductive Flirting.
-- The Little Book of Flirting: Seven Days to Being a Great Flirt.
-- Secrets of Sexual Body Language by Martin Lloyd-Elliott.
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The Machiavellian's Guide to Flirting: For Both Men and Women by Nick Casanova
-- Male Body Language That Attracts Women.
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-- Girls' Guide for Flirting: Straight Talk on Flirting.
-- Body Language Secrets: A Guide During Courtship & Dating by R. Don Steele.
