Your body language movements should be always smooth, graceful, and feminine. Move slowly and confidently, like the place and the guys are all there just to watch you. Arrange your female possessions, straighten your clothes, swish or stroke your hair to get it 'just right'. Each move should signal that you are a healthy female who is alive, active, and very proud to be very female. That is what will get all the guys' attention immediately! They all will be watching your body language -- even if they are with another woman. Guys can't help looking because they are all ancient hunters.
Men watching you do your female attention-getting activities will actually increase their 'hunting and mating' hormones. Men are hunters and they love the feeling of capturing the prize -- be it wild game or a woman. Research with fMRI brain scans show good feeling activity in men's brain "reward area" when they think about hunting and capturing the prize, winning at gambling, or doing all those good feeling things to a woman like you. And it takes them only a few milliseconds to rapidly scan through the dozens of good feeling things they can do to you! That produces a fantastically good feeling in the reward area of their brain, all in a second or two after only a quick sight of a you doing your "female movements".
In this type situation where you are moving in female ways and look available, men's visual areas in their brain are very active and release hormones to activate other areas in their body and brain. Your female movements will stimulate a strong urge in men to get close enough to touch, smell, and taste you. This urge will excite them and build courage to approach you!
Some background information on female body language:
Men are much more visual than women and get a hormonal surge just by looking at a healthy female -- either alive or in a photo. That is why pornography prospers as a man's target market. So smart women use many visual body language cues to attract attention with their bodies. And the things that gets the guys' immediate attention deal with sexuality! Women send five times as many sexual body language signals as men do. This does not mean women are more interested in the subject than men. Smart women just know what gets a man's attention fastest!
Hair flipping, swishing, combing and general preening plus a smile are the number one flirting female body language cues a woman uses to make men get excited. Other very effective female body language tactics are walking with exaggerated roll of her hips, relaxed swinging arms, chest out, and head held high with soft smile. Also she can tilt head coyly revealing her soft neck, lick lips, wear sexy clothes and jewelry, plus expose her soft skin on shoulders, upper arms, and back (and anywhere else socially acceptable). Men love to see a woman's skin! Clean, clear, and smooth skin is a sign of good health and that is high on men's desired traits in a mate to produce healthy offspring. So let the men know you are a healthy female and proud of it! Females have used body language to attract males for millions of past generations. These female body language tools are all 'man magnets' that you also can use for flirting -- or to keep your present man fascinated with you!
So now watch for a guy who has placed himself where he can see all the women. Definitely he is a 'hunter' in search of a mate. He is going to be watching for any woman with body language indicating it is OK for him to approach her. He holds great fear of being rejected so he must be careful in picking the right woman who appears available and safe to approach. He also wants to appear as a 'great hunter', therefore he will not 'hit on' women who appear generally undesirable to other men. So don't dress and look 'cheap' when you are out to meet men. Every male hunter wants to bring home a trophy. Dress and act like you are a trophy that every man can be proud of.
Keep Active.
Your goal is to look your healthy female 'best' and get noticed. Make sure you are seen. Keep moving around a lot. Every man's DNA is programmed as an ancient hunter, and he is especially alert to movement. So keep active, moving with quiet confidence and pride that you are a woman. Avoid holding your chin in toward your chest as this implies fear and weakness. Stick out your chin and your chest!Every guy there will wonder what his chances are with you. So keep active, look good, appear available, and let all the guys know you are there. Discretely watch for the guys who appeal to you most. You are going to select the man you want! When you find him, do these steps as if you are the world's greatest actress and your career depends on doing it correctly. This is extremely important! Here is what you must do:
- Catch his attention as he looks around the room and look directly into his eyes with a gentle smile. When your eyes meet, hold the connection a little longer than normally done. Do it definitely longer than when looking at other men!
- While looking at him, think these thoughts so your face will be most inviting to him: "Come here big man, I am what you want and I am all yours!" (He might even read your mind!)
- Then SLIGHTLY smile, and slowly drop your gaze DOWN to your lap or table.
- Researchers have measured the length of the average casual eye contact at about 100 milliseconds. The flirting eye contact lasts at least 150 milliseconds. Amazingly it is done unconsciously and very accurately.
- It is important to understand the strong message you send when you hold your gaze for longer than normal, then break eye contact and look DOWN. You are saying in powerful body language: "I am interested in you! I will not resist you! You may approach me! I am waiting for you!" I wonder how many men have fallen for that female trick over the past million years?
- While you wait for him to approach you, immediately re-adjust your body to sit up straight and more directly face him with your arms not crossed in front of you. Actually what you are doing is ancient but effective female flirting body language: you will be aiming your breasts at him (i.e. displaying that you are female). That will not go unnoticed because his hormones will kick-in and he will feel unconsciously attracted to you more! Just sit quietly, look down, and wait. This ancient and powerful female body language signal is important for the guy to see. He is unconsciously looking for this ancient invitation posture because he has great fear of being rejected in front of everyone there.
- If he has not come over to you in 10 - 15 seconds, coyly look back. He probably is working up his courage. This time your 'actress look' and your mental thoughts are going to be saying, "I don't understand why you are not coming to approach me. I want to meet you!" Thinking these words will help to automatically form the correct look on your face. Use body language with slightly raised eye brows and a little tilt of your head. Your head tilted to the side indicates interest and a desire to understand. (Pets do this and humans love them for it!)
- If he is brave enough to still show interest by looking back and not breaking eye contact, increase your smile and drop your gaze down again and wait for him to approach. If he gets up his courage to approach you, then you are ready to click Step 2 below for the next exciting step.