Step 1: How to Pick Up
the Right Man Fast!

his is the first step for using your flirting body language to capture the attention of the man YOU want. There are 5 steps that will give you the advantage over all your competition for getting the best man available. Even if you are not presently interested in attracting a man -- because you already have one -- better read this anyway. Learn what the other women are doing to steal your man!

Get Noticed by the Men

Find somewhere to sit where you can see all the men -- and where they can see you. Spend the first few moments getting organized, or so it seems. What you are really doing is insuring that the men notice you. You do this by MOVING with your special female flirting body language! Flirting Step 1 is all about getting attention with body language in order to attract men closer for your evaluation. Every man's DNA is programmed as an ancient hunter, and he is especially alert to movement. So keep active, moving with quiet confidence and pride that you are a woman.

Your female flirting body language movements are most effective when they are smooth, graceful, and feminine. Move slowly and confidently, like the place and the guys are all there just to watch you. Arrange your possessions, straighten your clothes, swish or stroke your hair to get it just right. Keep active, look good, appear available, and let all the guys know you are there.

Each move signals that you are a healthy woman who is alive, active, and very proud to be feminine. That is what will get all the guys' attention immediately! They will all be watching your body language -- even if they are with another woman. Guys can't help looking because their ancestors were hunters and those ancient hunting instincts are still in men today. Background Discover More . . .

Select the Man You Want

Watch for guys who have placed themselves where they can see all the women. Definitely these guys are hunters in search of a mate. They are going to be watching for any appealing woman with body language indicating it is OK to approach her. Every man holds great fear of being rejected in front of other men, so he must be careful in picking the right woman who appears available and safe to approach.

Discretely watch for the guys who appeal to you most. You are going to select the man you want! When you find him, do these steps as if you are the world's greatest actress. This is extremely important! Here is what you must do:

1. Catch his attention as he looks around the room and look directly into his eyes. When your eyes meet, smile and hold the connection a little longer than normally done. Do it noticeably longer than when looking at other men and friends. This is definitely a very special gaze and it packs a powerful body language message.
2. While looking at him, think these thoughts so your face will be most inviting to him and it will help you time your gaze: "Come here big man, I am the special woman you want and I am all yours! All you have to do is come to me." (He might even read your mind!)
3. If the guy maintains eye contact with you, then smile and drop your gaze DOWN to your lap or table.
4. In a few seconds glance back to see if he is paying close enough attention to look back to meet your eyes again for a even more friendly eye contact. Gaze into his eyes again for a slightly longer time, then smile and look down.

You have done this ancient mating dance correctly so far, now wait for him to approach you. This eye contact and looking down tactic has been well studied by sociologist researchers. Research Learn More . . .

Draw Him to You

While you wait for him to approach you, immediately re-adjust your body to sit up straight and more directly face him with your arms not crossed in front of you. Actually what you are doing is ancient female behavior that is effective feminine flirting body language even today. What you will do is subtly aim your breasts at him and not hide them. This is ancient behavior programmed in women's DNA for displaying that they are women. The opposite movement, which is frequently seen, is for women to cover their breasts and turn away from undesirable men or strangers. This is inherited behavior in women coming from their ancestors and uncountable numbers of encounters with men.

If he has not come over to you in 10 - 15 seconds, coyly look back to see if he is still interested. He probably is working up his courage. This time your "actress look" and your mental thoughts are going to be saying, "I don't understand why you are not coming to approach me. I want to meet you!" Thinking these words will help to automatically form the correct look on your face. Background Discover More . . .

If he is brave enough to still show interest by looking back and not breaking eye contact, increase your smile and drop your gaze down again and wait for him to approach. You have sent him an ancient body language invitation to approach message that has worked uncountable times with our ancestors. If he gets up his courage to approach you, then you are ready to click Step 2 below for the next exciting step.

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